Friend dating my ex
I don't think those are the rules of feminism so much as the rules of human decency. That's some Dawson-Joey-Pacey kind of betrayal, and I can only imagine the level of hurt you've been feeling.
I dealt with a similar sort of situation with an ex and a best friend.
Basically, I encouraged my gay BFF to hang with an ex of mine because why not? The second I set it up though, I regretted it, because I started thinking about what would happen if they hit it off and crushed on each other. We don't betray the ones we love the most, or at least we try not to!
And that created a whole shitshow of drama and insecurity for me. If you're ever feeling temptation island, I advise you to think about how YOU would feel if your ex and BFF hooked up.It didn't feel good worrying if he would trade in our friendship just for a forbidden make out with my best friend. As far as I'm concerned, there's only one rule when it comes to friends dating exes and that is: YOU CAN' T DO IT. If that doesn't get your dick limp, I don't know what will. if either isn't comfortable, or finds it remotely weird, expect the time you spend with said friend to dwindle. Is she so close and special to you that she's better than any other girl out there? Do you see the guy having issues with being around this girl? Is she completely cool hanging out with one of his exes, laughing and joking, sharing stories from back in the day and those two were dating? For a moment, things got so bad that my ex and I stopped talking for a bit, but we're fine now, thankfully. While I wouldn't mind seeing my ex go hook up and be happy with a stranger, there is an undeniable sting when it's with someone you know. Maybe if we didn't have the capacity to feel jealousy and insecurity, we could all just have a big happy orgy.
We met up recently, and it turned out, like with most things, to be a matter of miscommunication. And I don't think you should ever apologize or justify that sting.